Happiness Power Principle #2, April 3, 2016

Principle #2:If It's Going To Be, It's Up to Me

Nobody is put on this earth to make sure you are happy. Maybe your parents had the job early on - after all, they brought you here without asking - but their job ended long ago. Your happiness doesn't rest on the shoulders of them, your significant other, your family, your children, your friends, or your colleagues. It's totally up to you.

So, the second principle is: it is your responsibility to create your own happiness. It is entirely your job. If the universe cooperates, you get a bonus.

This can be a difficult principle to swallow. Observe Alexis, who devoted decades toward being bitter because her husband of 15 years walked out on her. Or, John, who, still in his 50's rails against his parents because they never showed him enough warmth or love.

Each of these people deluded themselves with the conviction that life, not them was responsible for their happiness; that people and conditions should be different. That's self-defeatism at its finest.

But, given the challenges to happiness we all face, does it really make sense to rely on the will, whim, or ability of others to do the job for you? If you decide to follow Principle #2 and accept the responsibility for your own happiness, then:

*determine to take charge of filling as many moments as possible with happiness

* gracefully accept that you are not a special case and expect that life will throw you curves along your journey

* Be resolute in working to overcome those curves that challenge your quest for happiness

* refuse to fall into the victim mentality, never giving into whining, self-pity, or blaming

*adopt the Serenity Prayer: "God grant me the wisdom to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."

Excerpt from Russell Grieger, Happiness on Purpose